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PRESS RELEASE: Now and going forward

July 19th, 2009 · admin · 39 Comments

Now and going forward

By Mark Sanford

I have struggled with how best to convey my regret in letting so many down, and in that regard I realize this op-ed does not do justice to the process of saying “I am sorry.” A handwritten note or phone call would ultimately be more appropriate, but given the number of people I need to apologize to I write this to begin the journey of trying to get things more right with you and others.

It is true that I did wrong and failed at the largest of levels, but equally true is the fact that God can make good of our respective wrongs in life. In this vein, while none of us has the chance to attend our own funeral, in many ways I feel like I was at my own in the past weeks, and surprisingly I am thankful for the perspective it has afforded.

If you ever have the misfortune of being at this point, whether self-induced as in my case or not, it will give you an indeed amazing perspective on life and on what really matters. I read notes from someone who worked in a sandwich shop I ate at ten years ago, from 7th grade classmates, from state employees and more. While there have been lifetimes of lessons learned over the past weeks, three things most immediately come to mind.

One, forgiveness and grace really do matter. I used to believe that at an intellectual level, now it is at the level of heart. Over my life I have not given enough of either, and yet given all the ways in which my failings have come to light, I write to apologize for, in the most profound of ways, letting you and so many others down. In life it’s always the people closest to us that we hurt the most, and given my standing of public trust, I know I’ve hurt many across our state. I apologize for this, and more than anything would ask for your forgiveness going forward.

Two, life is indeed about way more than public standing or political views, it’s about recognizing that none of us are the arbiters of truth, that there are moral absolutes, and that there is a God to whom we will all report for our actions. My failure has been most glaring on this front, where no public apology can make wrong right. As a consequence, it is on this plane that I’ve grown the most over the past weeks – and where I’m committed to growing the most going forward.

I’ve been humbled and broken as never before in my life and as a consequence have given up areas of control in a way that I never have before – and it is my belief that this will make me a better father, husband, friend and advocate.

It’s in the spirit of making good from bad that I am committing to you and the larger family of South Carolinians to use this experience to both trust God in his larger work of changing me, and from my end, to work to becoming a better and more effective leader.

In this regard I think all that has transpired will be particularly relevant in the way I deal with the legislative body and other state leaders going forward. Micah 6:8 asks us to do justice, love mercy, and to walk humbly, and as I begin these steps into the last 18 months of this administration, it will indeed be with a more contrite and humble spirit.

I’ve realized that as much as I have and will continue to advocate for things ranging from restructuring to responsible spending to school choice, my approach needs to be less about my will and more about looking for ways to more humbly present the greater principals and ideas at play. It needs to be less strident and more about finding ways to work with legislative leaders to advance the ideas so many of us believe in. It means less time fighting the tide - and a greater awareness of the fact that God controls it. In working with a few alterations to my approach, I think this could be a far more productive last session than the one that would have been had the tragedy that has unfolded not occurred, and in turn, people’s lives can be made better.

Finally it is at your funeral that you in many ways not only can see most clearly the things that really matter in life, but where one gets the best glimpse of who your real friends are – and how much they matter. For that reason, I want to thank so many for their kindnesses and support over the years and for their kindness in this latest chapter in our book together as South Carolinians.

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39 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Ramona // Jul 19, 2009 at 11:03 am

    You could make amends by being present at your own resignation, and making that the last chapter in your book.


  • 2 John Mark // Jul 19, 2009 at 11:46 am

    I remember all those things you said about President Clinton after his affair and your support for his impeachment. I guess you forgot.


  • 3 Buddy // Jul 19, 2009 at 12:18 pm

    This man, Sanford is unbelievable! What really galls me is his uncaring attitude for the poor, the terrible schools of SC, etc. But it is for the people of SC to deal with.

  • 4 Anon // Jul 19, 2009 at 1:07 pm

    Dude, stop using GOD as your wing man.

    It’s time to SHUT THE F#@K UP and leave the stage.

  • 5 bob // Jul 19, 2009 at 1:12 pm

    maybe you should run for president of argentina

  • 6 Stephen Bateman // Jul 19, 2009 at 1:28 pm

    Man really screwed up. But there’s still hope, resign and take 18 months off, maybe after that you can return to the public eye.

  • 7 A Study in Contrasts: Rush Limbaugh and Mark Sanford :: // Jul 19, 2009 at 1:46 pm

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  • 8 hypocrite alert // Jul 19, 2009 at 2:41 pm

    Openly apologize to Bill Clinton, then shut up and go far, far away

  • 9 Sanford: I’m Doing God’s Work | Weblogs // Jul 19, 2009 at 3:19 pm

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  • 10 Bill // Jul 19, 2009 at 5:06 pm

    Jeez… every public statement Sanford makes just causes him to look worse. Unfortunately it is making SC the laughingstock of not just the country, but the world. I hope that every politician who helps keep this immoral man in office is held accountable when they run for re-election. The sad thing is how poorly this reflects on the good folks of SC.

    Sanford: For the good of your family, your state, and your constituents (remember them?) know when it’s time to leave and RESIGN! You keep invoking God when you make excuses for staying in office. Well, God doesn’t want you to remain in office, if anything he would want you to focus your efforts solely on saving your family after the horrible things that you’ve done to them.

  • 11 DC SC // Jul 19, 2009 at 5:12 pm

    You are a piece of garbage. Drop dead.

  • 12 FubarGOP // Jul 19, 2009 at 5:29 pm

    So, when Sanford persecuted Clinton, we were to believe that God told him to do it? And now, when the philandering shoe is on the other foot, Sanford wants us to believe that God wants us to be forgiving? How convenient.

    Well, I believe in an Old Testament, fundamental, God who seeks vengeance and retribution. One who seeks justice. As in, “am eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.”

    I do not believe Sanford should resign. I believe he should be impeached.

  • 13 sdkeller // Jul 19, 2009 at 6:17 pm

    Governor Sanford:

    I understand the pathology of your thinking here, having been both a part of a conservative Christian culture and having a personal affair of my own.

    I offer you this, with as much grace and mercy as I can muster: You are still not being honest with yourself. Which ultimately means you cannot be truly honest with anyone else.

    Healing is a process. And more often than not, it is a painful one. I hear all the familiar language that allows you to rationalize your position: I made a mistake, but it shouldn’t cost me everything.

    And yet it has.

    Let it go, Mark.

    The truth of the matter is this: what you value, you will do. And your choices, time and time again, have betrayed your values. No matter what lip service you have given to the contrary. I know it is tough to look into that mirror. But look you must.

    If you really want to set an example of justice, mercy and humility, you will remove yourself from office and from the public eye. You will take the time you need to ask the really difficult questions that will hopefully help you to ultimately make the amends you seem to sincerely desire to make: with God, your family and ultimately, yourself.

    Go in peace, Governor.

    But by all means, go.

  • 14 Klem Shakes // Jul 19, 2009 at 7:04 pm

    I agree with the above posts, and would only add that God shaped Mark Sanford to look and talk like an erect male member of the GOP.

    God Bless this Mess!

  • 15 Jamie // Jul 19, 2009 at 7:45 pm

    Filth. Pure, unmitaged filth. Sanford. You have stolen public money. You have engaged in the utmost hypocrisy. And now you are claiming to speak for God. With representatives like you, its no wonder that America is roundly rejecting the Republican party.

  • 16 BillyHW // Jul 19, 2009 at 7:55 pm

    What a filthy maggot.

  • 17 BillyHW // Jul 19, 2009 at 7:58 pm

    Micah 6:8 asks us to do justice, love mercy, and to walk humbly, and as I begin these steps into the last 18 months of this administration, it will indeed be with a more contrite and humble spirit.

    Integrity 2:18 says to resign if you’ve been caught porking an Argentinian home-wrecker behind your wife’s back.

  • 18 FubarGOP // Jul 19, 2009 at 8:06 pm

    Enforce the laws of South Carolina, please.

    SECTION 16-15-60. Adultery or fornication.

    Any man or woman who shall be guilty of the crime of adultery or fornication shall be liable to indictment and, on conviction, shall be severally punished by a fine of not less than one hundred dollars nor more than five hundred dollars or imprisonment for not less than six months nor more than one year or by both fine and imprisonment, at the discretion of the court.

    SECTION 16-15-70. “Adultery” defined.

    “Adultery” is the living together and carnal intercourse with each other or habitual carnal intercourse with each other without living together of a man and woman when either is lawfully married to some other person.

  • 19 Diaf // Jul 19, 2009 at 8:35 pm

    Lovely. And then having your wife blame YOUR adulterous behavior on “gay marriage dissolving the sanctity of marriage.” You’re a hypocrite lying in your own self-made bed of filth.

  • 20 Morality // Jul 19, 2009 at 8:47 pm

    Who is buying this nonsense? Who in government has the morals to stand up for what is right? How can this man possibly govern effectively? The people have spoken, and it’s time for Sanford for the first time in this saga do what is right. Accept responsibility without hiding behind the bible and step down immediately. You have reduced the governor’s office and the state of South Carolina to a bad joke.

  • 21 KingCranky // Jul 19, 2009 at 9:14 pm

    So Gov. Sanford, were you wrong to insist that Bill Clinton resign as a matter of “moral legitimacy”?

    If not, then please explain, logically, just why your own advice to Clinton shouldn’t apply to yourself as well.

    Here in Texas, we know all about stupid, petty, extremely self-absorbed Governors, but not once has any of our governors left the state with no contingency plan should a situation requiring an immediate Gubernatorial response arise.

    It’s that last point which is being lost in all the uproar about your obvious hypocrisy about “Family Values”.

    BTW, that sure was a special Father’s Day you chose NOT to spend with your sons, huh?

  • 22 Anonynmous // Jul 19, 2009 at 9:18 pm

    Time to shut up, grow up and stop playing out your garden variety mid-life crisis in public.

    You are not “special”.

    And you (and your wife) better start reconsidering your stance on gay marriage now, because I guarantee you at least one of your four sons is going to “come out” sometime in the future.

  • 23 DevilMadeMeDoIt // Jul 19, 2009 at 10:15 pm

    Get over yourself, Sanford.

    Nobody gives a tinker’s damn about a holier-than-thou hypocrite.

  • 24 bigdaddy // Jul 19, 2009 at 11:39 pm

    Best part is when he’s like, “Yeah, I know I didn’t do a lot of forgiving of others in the past, and just saying so should be enough for me to tell you that I think you should all forgive me now so we can move on already, ‘mkay?”

    What a creep.

  • 25 Anne Russell // Jul 20, 2009 at 9:36 am

    What a horse’s ass you are, Mark Sanford. You used Maria and got your rocks off and made her believe you loved her, then got your ass in a sling, and now you’re mealy-mouthing around and invoking Christian love? Go away, please.

  • 26 Jennifer Parfenovics // Jul 20, 2009 at 10:31 am

    As a complete outsider ( Australian ) can I say that Mark you must resign immediately. All of your invoking of moral equivalency is so destructive to all conservative Christians in all the world. The whole issue was and always will continue to be, black and white, evil or good , bitter or sweet. Stop trying to spin it as something else. Remember the woes that Jesus declared to the hypocrits ? You have invalidated yourself from public life as Governor by your actions and behaviour. You have failed to govern yourself. I pray for your wife and four sons that God may give them grace to forgive you. But you must sincerely repent first . All your words are indicitive that you are still trying to justify yourself ? Listen to Bible believing Christians who will tell you the truth in love. Turn to the only One Who can help you now. The Lord Jesus Christ , the Creator , the Almighty God, the Redeemer, the Sustainer, the Prince of Peace , the Way , the Truth and the Life.

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  • 28 Truth be Told // Jul 20, 2009 at 11:23 am

    Sanford is a worthless piece of hypocritical filth. Your wife (you know, the one you took a sworn oath under God to love, honor and cherish?) is one classy and gorgeous woman who deserves a REAL man and not someone like you. I wish her and her children all the best. And since you like to hide behind the Words of God, what about His Commandment about not coveting another man’s wife? As long as low life HYPOCRITES like you, Ensign, Craig, Vitter and other “family values” preachers like Newt Gingrich and Rudy Guiliani remain in the GOP, I will gladly re-register as an Independent.

  • 29 Jake Peters // Jul 20, 2009 at 11:36 am

    Do your party a favor, Sanford. Leave.

  • 30 Nanci // Jul 20, 2009 at 3:25 pm

    Mr. Sanford:
    Why don’t you follow your heart and ask your wife for a divorce because you are in love with another woman? Why don’t you resign because you did some amazingly stupid things as governor and no one wants you to be governor any more. Then go, go be with the Argentine woman and this will all be over. You will still see your children and your ex-wife can move one and find someone who really, really loves her. You are not going to be governor again, your political days are over. Maybe you can start afresh in Argentina. But everyday you stay here and blah-blah-blahing your way into people disliking you more, you are only bringing more harm to all those around you, and the good people of SC.

  • 31 schmerguls // Jul 20, 2009 at 5:02 pm

    Besides all those other things people are calling you, you are a Republican.

  • 32 Susan Edwards // Jul 21, 2009 at 2:34 am

    What a pile of self serving drivel. I glad you’re a good Christian, but lets put that away, because frankly, if you have to keep trotting out your faith to keep your job, then I have as much belief in the truth of what you say as you wife does in your fidelity. You’re beginning to get on peoples nerves with this whining mendicant act.

    By the way, Mr Forgiveness, did you call an apologize to Clinton for not being a good Christian and forgiving him his little peccadillo? Though not.

    Just leave. Please.

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  • 34 GF // Aug 11, 2009 at 10:50 am

    What an amazing amount of judgment in these comments. It is a good thing that everyone has so many stones to throw, because those stones will end up right back on the commenters eventually. We are all in need of grace, as is this leader.

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